International Dating Tips | How to Make Interracial Relationships Work

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The beauty of the internet is it makes it easier for men to meet and interact with more women. Some of them have even broadened their dating pool by meeting women from other countries. A lot of couples got together because they signed up on a dating website and found each other there.

If you’re lucky to find someone online, it’s only natural that you’d want to meet each other face to face. In fact, that’s a sign the relationship is going well. The natural progression would be to meet regularly until such time you are both ready to settle down. However, this doesn’t always happen with whoever you met online.

One of the effects of online dating is that time seems at a stand still, especially when you both have a hectic schedule. The only way for the relationship to progress is both of you making an effort to build a stronger connection, which can be harder when you are only conducting your relationship on free online dating sites. Fortunately, you can increase your chances of taking your online relationship to the next level.

There are several steps to convince your potential match to take the plunge with you. Before you do so, you have to make sure that you found the right woman. If you’re going to devote all your time on one woman, she better be worth it. Otherwise, all your efforts would be for nothing.

With that said, here’s how to escalate with women (as in progress the relationship) you are dating online:

1. Find out if you are one the same page

You have to make sure that she’s just as eager as you are to take the next step. The most direct way to find out is to ask her if you’re ready to meet. If you’re really lucky, she might be the one to broach the topic.

But if you are intimidated by the direct approach, you can go about it subtly. During one of your online conversations, you can “jokingly" mention visiting her. If she responds positively, you just have to keep reinforcing the idea until you two can finally plan your first meeting.

On the other hand, if her reaction is pretty vague, then don’t push your luck. If she’s not responding well with your cues to meet up, you can either wait until she’s ready (again, make sure she’s worth waiting for) or you can move on to someone else. That’s why it pays to sign up on several online dating sites. That way you can move much faster.

2. Schedule a meeting

Once she agrees to meet up with you, you can finally set a schedule. You can ask her what her preferred date is but ideally both of you should be free during that time. Don’t forget to also plan your itinerary. If you don’t have time for that, luckily there are international online dating sites that organize tours simply for LDR couples.

The important thing is the activities planned should allow you to get to know each other better. They should also be what you might both enjoy doing together. If you only plan out activities that you enjoy, she might not find them as fun as you. Also, this makes you seem self-centered. If you have no idea what she would find enjoyable, stick to the basics, like dinner or a movie.

By planning the itinerary, that would cement the fact that both of you are committed to meeting each other and hopefully one way of how to escalate with women. Whoever would agree to meet with you is worth keeping.

3. Plan future encounters

Let’s say your first meeting went well, which sets up the perfect excuse to see each other again. If you are in a long-distance relationship (LDR), the time apart also strengthens your yearning for each other.

Whereas if you spend way too much time together, your relationship might fizzle out. The time and distance also lends an air of mystery, driving you to learn more about each other. And the more you meet, the more your bond grows.

You can also plan other relationship milestones during your future meetings. For example, meeting the parents. The important thing is you keep the momentum going. As much as possible, try not to cancel. The risk with this is you might not invest as much in seeing each other. So keep the flame alive by planning your future meetings.

As long you play your cards right, she might even agree to move to another country to be with you. But during every step of the way, make sure both of you are on the same page. When you’re opening up the subject of taking the relationship to the next level, don’t pressure her into saying yes. You wouldn’t want to be with an unwilling woman because that relationship won’t last long.

Aside from not pressuring her, here are some other don’ts when convincing her to progress the relationship:

• Resolve conflict as soon as possible

One of the challenges of LDRs is when couples argue, they have a harder time clearing up their disagreements because of the different time zones and distance. But the longer you don’t seek a compromise, the more your feelings for each other would dissolve.

• Find ways to understand each other

This is definitely applicable when you both don’t speak the same language. In order to communicate efficiently with one another, perhaps consider using a translating app or even hiring a professional translator. That way, you both get your points across.

• Spice up the relationship

One of the dangers of having a partner abroad is the relationship can get stale pretty quickly. To keep the spark alive, come up with different activities to spice up the relationship.

The point is you might exert extra effort to make your online relationship work. All relationships take work anyway, but they’re all worth it as long as you find the right woman to share it with. As long as you don’t lose sight of that goal, that should motivate you to progress it further.