Find ways to spice up your relationship this Couple Appreciation Month.

One of the common reasons long-term couples break up is because they stop dating. They stop making an effort to make each other feel loved and valued.

Most relationships often end up that way.

At first, you tend to be all lovey-dovey. You date regularly. You call and text each other every minute. But then months or years pass, and the sparks fade. The romance starts dying, and you wonder what you can do to revive your failing relationship.

What can you really do?

You start dating again, start acting like a new couple.

Coincidentally, Couple Appreciation Month is coming soon.

This means that you have a whole month to show your significant other how much you love them.

So, what should you do during this special holiday dedicated to lovers? Here is a list of how to spice up a long-term relationship this Couple Appreciation Month.

Surprise your significant other.

Everyone loves surprises, especially if it comes from their lover. So, why not surprise your partner?

You can take them out on a dinner date in an upscale restaurant or surprise them with round-trip tickets to an international destination.

If they are not the type of person who likes huge surprises, think of smaller but meaningful gifts. For instance, you can surprise them with their favorite flower or coffee brand.

It depends on what they love.

But be mindful, and only surprise them with things you know they actually want. If you have been together long enough, coming up with meaningful gift ideas will be easy. If not, you may want to dig deeper. Think long and hard.

Have you heard them listening to a specific song lately? Have you seen them sharing specific things on their social media accounts?

Look into the small details of their lives, and there you will know for certain what they want this Couple Appreciation Month.

Try something new together.

Even if you have been with your significant other for a long time, there are a lot of things that you may still not know about each other. So, why not try something new together?

Are there things on your lover’s bucket list that you also want to do? Are there specific cuisines you want to try? Are there events or places you want to visit?

Why not do it together?

For instance, your lover is an introvert and hasn’t had any extreme outdoor experiences such as paragliding and cliff jumping. Why not ask them to try it with you? This way, you create new experiences together.

Just make sure to ask them first. Find out if they are comfortable with the idea. You can’t just force them to do it with you. Otherwise, they might end up hating you more because you pushed them to do something that they actually don’t want to.

Have quality time together.

If you don’t have the means to throw a huge surprise for your significant other or try something new and exciting together, that’s okay. Giving them your time and being present is enough.

This doesn’t mean that you have to be there for your partner every minute of the day. This also doesn’t mean that you have to share every specific detail of your day. It just means that you should spend more quality time together.

Eat breakfast or have dinner together. Call them when you’re on break or chat with them after you’ve arrived home.

If you are in a long-distance relationship, set up a convenient schedule to call each other, and stick by that schedule. Despite your busy lives, you should always make room for one another.

The key here is to give them a time of your day.

Often, when we’ve become so used to having a partner, we take them for granted. We tend to forget to make time for them. That is why, this Couple’s Month, make sure to dedicate ample time for your lover. Give them this, and the flames of your love will continue burning!

Leave love notes regularly.

Who doesn’t want to receive words of affirmations on a daily basis? Surely, your lover will appreciate them.

There are a lot of creative ways to deliver romantic messages to your partner. You can write it on a post-it note and leave it in your fridge. You can slip it into their pocket. And if you live in different places, you can send them love notes through mail or voice messages.

No matter how cold your relationship has become, it’s not too late to win back each other’s affection. Start small through love notes.

And send them regularly…

…especially this Couple Appreciation Month. You don’t have to write something that could fill up a whole paper. Just write a sentence or two, add a flower or chocolate, and voila! Your lover’s heart will surely flutter.

Now, you shouldn’t only do this on Couples Month. If possible, continue this gesture for as long as you can. And it’s okay to miss a day or two. The important part is that you are trying. You are making an effort, and that is what counts.

Show the world your love.

Take the time to show the world your significant other and how much they mean to you.

You can do this by posting a picture of you together accompanied by a short cute caption with details of how you met and where you are in your relationship. And make sure that your caption is from the heart and you are the one writing it. Lastly, a small piece of advice, pick the best picture of your other half.

Little Things Matter Most

Sustaining a relationship takes a lot of effort. But all that effort to make your partner feel valued is worth it, especially if you truly love them.

This Couples Appreciation Month, we hope you take these relationship tips into consideration. Value your relationship, respect your partner, communicate, and align your values.

Bear in mind that spicing up your relationship doesn’t just happen in a day. You and your partner need to work for it consistently and regularly. You need to put in the necessary effort if you want your relationship to last longer. That said, have a great month ahead!