NEVER Do This After a First Date

Can anything be more thrilling and memorable than the first date?

There are a few that come to mind, of course, but you know what we mean!

You get to meet this incredible woman face to face, and possibly for the first time. You talk and try to find your commonalities.

Then maybe you fall more and more for her and consider yourselves a perfect match.

By the end of your special time together, you are sure you will get her to say yes to a second date.

However, we must slow things down for a moment.

Hold on to those second date expectations because there is still work to do.

Yes, you read that right — the road to securing a beautiful future with the woman you’re genuinely interested in goes beyond sharing that sweet kiss on the first date.

You must commit to your promises, and, at the same time, not crowd her.

In short, there are essential do's and don’ts for you to follow.

Not sure what the best steps after a first date are? No need to fret because these dating tips will show you the way.

Read on and learn how you can keep on stacking your love points.

The Dos

• Be sure to follow up. Do not let the day end without, at the very least, reaching out to her.

A simple thank you text or wishing her a good night are both safe moves. Of course, we expect that you have her consent to contact her through phone or social media.

While we believe that outdated dating standards for men going in to make the first move should be forgotten, it doesn’t actually take anything away from you if you do so.

Instead, this will show her how much you are sincerely appreciative of the experience and how you’d like to see her again.

• Make those promises you made true. A test of genuine interest is keeping the words you gave during the previous date.

Did you mention sharing a recipe for a dish you both enjoy? Can you really loan them that book you recommended?

The goal of a second date is to get to know each other better, without the nerves and bashfulness of a first meeting.

At this time, you are looking for a comfortable topic that will keep things rolling, instead of moving from one question to another. What you opened up on the first date can help with that.

Simply put, keeping those promises can be a good excuse to maintain a connection with her.

• Pick up on her likes. Keeping in mind those little details a casual listener wouldn’t have noticed always comes in handy.

Not only are you going to impress her with how much you truly value her words and interests, but she will also be convinced of your desire to spend more time with her.

Was there a specific cafe she said she would love to visit once again? Did she hint at a preference for a more active date activity like spending time at an amusement park?

Don’t hesitate to take action and offer to take her to these places for your second date.

Trust us, remembering the little things is greatly flattering for a woman.

• Have a positive outlook. You don't have to be waiting on edge for her sweet yes to come your way.

Dating, albeit admit tingly scary, should be fun for both parties. Keep that humor and smile alive — you just don’t know who might be attracted to it.

If it helps, think about the power of attraction and what positivity can do for your love venture and life as a whole!

Don’t ever think about stalking her right after your first date. | Photo by Rohit Tandon on Unsplash

The Don’ts

• Don’t stalk her, this is always worth repeating.

Whether online or in person — stalking a woman is just creepy and even considered a serious criminal offense.

No woman (or any person, at that) would appreciate being pressured and harassed by someone who is supposedly hoping to create a meaningful relationship with them.

While we say that following up is a good move, make sure to limit it to a few decent messages, and give replies only when proper.

Give her space to think about her decision. Nothing turns off a woman more than a disrespectful man.

• Don’t play mind games. If you think that mentioning your other dates will rile up jealousy in her and thus push her into saying yes to a second date is a good game plan, think again.

The same goes for guilt-tripping and blatantly lying to her.

Coercion and some perverse “reverse psychology” shtick are obvious toxic behaviors that have never helped a relationship become successful, and must never be done in the first place.

If you want to enjoy a love life that is built upon honesty, respect, and trust, learn to invest the very same efforts as well.

• Do not over-analyze.

Being sensitive to her reaction is different from giving meaning to every word she says and moves she makes.

Do not confuse her kindness with an agreement to an exclusive relationship.

Likewise, do not think that her not reciprocating the same energy you have is already a sure sign that you are never getting that second date.

Not only is over-analyzing unhealthy, but it will also complicate your emotions and thoughts, leaving you hurt no matter what the outcome will be.

• Don’t bar yourself off from other possible dates. You might be asking yourself if this is a good tip to follow, and our answer is yes — so as long as you have an understanding with her that such an option is available for you both.

It is chivalrous and admirable to keep contact with only her, but it can also come off as claiming that a romantic relationship between you is a sure thing or that you are standing guard from her finding someone else.

Again, that’s putting pressure on her, and that’s never a good thing.

While first date tips for guys may seem like a ton of work, there are also other important things to consider afterwards. It’s actually pretty easy and downright a given when you think about it. Simply follow these do’s and don’ts, learn to play your cards right, and we assure you that a second date is not very far from the horizon.

Best of luck!